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Has anyone else been triggered by the recent video at the Coldplay concert.

I am 5 years out and felt things were going ok. But boy did this really open old wounds
It doesn’t help that the man in question bears a canny resemblance to my husband.

I feel very vulnerable and stupid for staying.
It’s hard to even look at him right now.

I have found the public comments so difficult to read. I really feel like I have completely lost my self respect by staying. I am feeling like I may have made a massive mistake. Just seeing these two cheaters - and the public reaction. It just takes me back to the first few weeks after d-day.

How can people be so cruel? Honestly the brazenness of these two. My husband and his AP worked together. They went to the theatre and on holiday together. I am pretty sure their work colleagues knew. I think watching this has been like a bucket of water in my face.

Anyone else feeling this - after seeing the clips on social media?

Feeling so sick to my stomach- it’s really got to me. Thanks for reading, just not sure what this means. Feeling so off balance 😢

Yeah, I think it’s gotten to everyone here.

The comments that imply we shouldn’t judge, leave them alone, etc. smh with that bull.

I have been watching it and just assume that the people saying that sort of bullshit are cheaters, too. It’s helpful information to have if you see it among people you know. Not a friend anymore, right?

And yes, I feel lame as well.

I’m sorry, I’ve got nothing smart to say here except yeah. Me too.

I really feel like I have completely lost my self respect by staying. I am feeling like I may have made a massive mistake.

Did you feel this way before the Coldplay concert incident?

I think that it is hard not to matter which choice you make - D or Reconciliation. And everyone has an opinion so it’s better to ignore what others think.

I’m sure people would say I’m an idiot for giving my H a third chance - but I felt as though if he didn’t make a supreme effort I would D him anyway so another 30 days wasn’t going to make much difference.

But in fact it did.

Is your former cheating spouse doing everything possible to make amends? If so, and your marriage has survived and you are happy, who cares what others think?

And I used to be a judgmental woman who had the "I would never stay married to a cheater" mantra down pat. Funny how things change when I’m in the middle of the affair.

Ignore the haters.