It's a truly complex situation, and my fiancé and I have been discussing it, finding ourselves in two minds about the public exposure.
We certainly see the many obvious downsides you've mentioned, particularly the messy impact on the children who would witness everything unfold so publicly.
However, the upside is undeniably significant: the overwhelming public support for the wife, with people openly hoping she takes him for all he's worth. That must feel incredibly validating. Imagine if literally everyone in your world was supporting you and labeling your partner a creep – the world has essentially taken your side.
My fiancé actually suggested that she believes this public outing could be a surprisingly effective way for the wife to gain clarity. It's like ripping off a band-aid for her, publicly exposing the husband as a "sleazeball," and potentially providing crucial evidence for a fault divorce, if that's legally possible. Though, we acknowledge that if she ultimately chooses to reconcile with him, she might face a backlash herself from the very public currently supporting her.
So, I suppose whether this public exposure ends up being a "good thing" ultimately depends on whether she stays or leaves. Personally, I just love the karma of it all.
I recall reading on another forum that public social media exposure by a betrayed spouse often makes them look unhinged and embarrassing – that was the majority opinion. Yet, many betrayed spouses feel compelled to do it. The way this situation unfolded, with the lead singer of a terribly corny band calling them out, means the wife maintains her dignity while still getting him publicly outed.
Presuming she is somewhat innocent in all this, I sincerely hope she divorces him and takes as much as she possibly can. Likewise the husband of the CPO.
[This message edited by DRSOOLERS at 8:06 AM, Friday, July 18th]
